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Pioneer in love for all, Valentine in the Netherlands

in Dutch way of life, Dutch events on 30 January, 2025

Love, romance, and Valentine’s Day in the Netherlands: a cultural perspective

I will never forget how surprised I was, waking up with a heart-shaped pastry next to my bed. A small Valentine’s Day gift from my boyfriend. And that postcard that I received in my mailbox, and to this day I still don’t know who it came from. Who were you, mysterious admirer.

Valentine’s Day is a trend that has blown over from America, and for us down-to-earth Dutch people we like it, but we don’t understand the extreme hype. Here we think that you should be nice to each other every day, and telling each other that you love each other every day is worth so much more. Right?

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Red paper heart for Valentine on hands

Love is a universal language, but every country has its own unique way of expressing it. In the Netherlands, where practicality often outweighs grand romantic gestures, love is celebrated in a subtle yet deeply meaningful way. Whether you’re strolling along the picturesque canals of Amsterdam or enjoying a cozy evening at home, love in the Netherlands is all about authenticity, connection, and a touch of Dutch directness.

Love in Dutch culture

Dutch culture is known for its down-to-earth and no-nonsense approach, and this extends to relationships as well. Over-the-top displays of affection aren’t as common here as in some other cultures, but that doesn’t mean the Dutch aren’t romantic. Instead of grand declarations of love, Dutch couples often show their affection through thoughtful, everyday actions. Sharing a meal, biking together through the countryside, or simply spending quality time are all valued expressions of love.

Communication is key in Dutch relationships. Honesty and directness are highly regarded, meaning that in the Netherlands, you can expect open conversations about feelings, future plans and expectations. This straightforward approach helps build strong and lasting relationships based on trust and equality.

 

Blue heart Delft Valentine
Blue heart in Delft perfect for a Valentine date

The Netherlands: a pioneer in love for all

One of the most remarkable aspects of love culture in the Netherlands is its openness and inclusivity. The country has long been at the forefront of LGBTQI+ rights and was the first in the world to legalize same-sex marriage in 2001. Love is celebrated in all its forms, and Dutch society embraces diverse relationships with pride and acceptance. From Amsterdam’s vibrant Pride celebrations to the inclusive policies that support same-sex couples and families, the Netherlands is a place where love truly knows no boundaries.

Valentine’s Day in the Netherlands

While Valentine’s Day is celebrated in the Netherlands, it doesn’t have quite the same level of enthusiasm as in countries like the United States or France. Dutch people generally see February 14th as an opportunity for a simple, heartfelt gesture rather than an extravagant display of love.

Many couples exchange small gifts, handwritten notes, or flowers—especially tulips, which are synonymous with Dutch culture. Chocolates and romantic dinners are also popular, but you won’t find the kind of commercial frenzy that’s common elsewhere. Interestingly, some Dutch people even view Valentine’s Day as a foreign import that isn’t necessary for expressing love—after all, in the Netherlands, romance is an everyday affair, not something reserved for just one day a year.

two hands form a heart love symbol

Unique Dutch romantic traditions

Though Valentine’s Day isn’t as commercialized in the Netherlands, the Dutch have their own charming ways of expressing love. For instance, the famous ‘love lock’ bridges, where couples attach locks as a symbol of their everlasting love, can be found in cities like Amsterdam and Utrecht.

Another romantic Dutch tradition is ‘samenwonen’—living together before marriage, which is quite common and often seen as a natural step in a relationship. Dutch couples prefer a practical and equal partnership, where both individuals contribute equally to daily life.

For those looking for a romantic getaway, the Netherlands offers breathtaking experiences. A sunset boat ride along the canals of Amsterdam, a peaceful stroll through the tulip fields of Keukenhof in the spring, or a cozy weekend in a charming Dutch village—love finds its way into the everyday moments.

The Dutch approach to love: effortlessly romantic

The Dutch way of love is effortless yet deeply sincere. While they may not indulge in grand, cinematic gestures, their love is shown in meaningful actions, shared experiences and strong communication. Whether it’s biking hand in hand through the streets of Utrecht, sipping coffee at a cozy café, or cooking dinner together at home, love in the Netherlands is about cherishing the little moments.

So, if you find yourself in the Netherlands on Valentine’s Day, don’t expect a dramatic display of affection. Instead, embrace the Dutch way, keep it simple, keep it honest and most importantly, keep it real.

Happy Valentine’s Day to you all!

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